How To Trust Again After Narcissistic Abuse
After enduring narcissistic abuse, the aftermath often leaves us grappling with a profound lack of trust. How do we rebuild trust in someone who has betrayed us so deeply, reshaping our entire perception of them into a falsehood? How can we trust again after enduring gaslighting, manipulation, and profound emotional pain?
Trusting After Narcissistic Abuse
This struggle can extend beyond human relationships, affecting our ability to trust God. If our trust has been shattered by a male figure's betrayal, the thought of approaching God, portrayed as a fatherly figure, can evoke complex emotions.
These challenges are complex and can manifest in various ways:
Betrayal and Manipulation: Victims of narcissistic abuse have likely experienced significant betrayal and manipulation from someone they trusted. This betrayal can shatter their ability to trust others, as they fear being deceived or hurt again.
Emotional Scars: The emotional wounds inflicted by narcissistic abuse, such as feelings of worthlessness, shame, and fear, can contribute to a general distrust of others' intentions and motives.
Isolation and Loneliness: Victims may withdraw from relationships and social interactions, feeling isolated and unable to connect with others due to fear of being taken advantage of or betrayed again.
Loss of Self-Worth: Narcissistic abuse often undermines the victim's self-esteem and confidence, leading to doubts about their own judgment and worthiness of trust from others.
Fear and Anxiety: The trauma of abuse can lead to heightened fear and anxiety, making it difficult to trust in the goodness and reliability of others.
Why We Can Trust God
The good news is that God loves us deeply and unconditionally. In the midst of the challenges and wounds caused by narcissistic abuse, we find solace in trusting God. As Proverbs 3:5-6 instructs us, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths." God's love for us is perfect and unwavering. He desires to heal our pain and restore us to a place of perfect love despite the suffering we have endured.
If you've been harmed by a male figure, consider finding comfort in the embrace of baby Jesus or seeking healing and restoration through the intercession of Mother Mary.
Here are compelling reasons why we can trust God from a Catholic perspective:
God's Unchanging Nature: God is described in the Bible as faithful and unchanging (Malachi 3:6). Unlike human beings who may fail us, God's character is steadfast and trustworthy.
God's Love and Mercy: The Catholic faith teaches that God loves each person unconditionally (John 3:16) and desires their well-being (Jeremiah 29:11). His mercy is abundant and extends to all who seek Him (Psalm 103:8-12).
Faithfulness Throughout History: Throughout salvation history, God has remained faithful to His promises and has consistently cared for His people, even in times of difficulty and suffering (Lamentations 3:22-23).
Jesus Christ, Our Example: Through the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus Christ, God demonstrated His love and faithfulness to humanity. Christ's sacrifice on the cross shows God's willingness to endure suffering for our sake, revealing His trustworthiness and commitment to our salvation (Romans 5:8).
Promises of Provision and Protection: The Bible is filled with promises of God's provision and protection for His people (Psalm 23:1, Psalm 91:1-4). Trusting in God's providence allows us to surrender our fears and anxieties, knowing that He cares for us (1 Peter 5:7).
Transformative Power of Grace: Through prayer, sacraments, and the guidance of the Holy Spirit, Catholics believe in the transformative power of God's grace. Trusting in God's grace enables individuals to experience healing, forgiveness, and restoration of trust in relationships.
In summary, while experiences of narcissistic abuse can deeply wound our ability to trust others, God offers a pathway to healing and restoration through His unfailing love, mercy, and faithfulness. God never lies, cheats, steals, or has a plan to harm us. Trusting in God involves surrendering our fears and wounds to Him, believing that He is trustworthy and will guide us through our journey of healing and spiritual growth.
